Prologue:

The Oxford dictionary defines the word, “anxious” as:
Feeling or showing worry, nervousness, or unease about something with an uncertain outcome.

Anxiety Ensues the Thoroughfare:

Latin has some wicked smart phrases. “Quo Vadis” has always been one that has stuck with me asking, “Where are you going?”

That is the true question, isn’t it? But, it also provides anxiety due to the wonders of what the light or darkness that will reveal itself to be.

The most exciting entity of life is the journey of one’s self. There are two mindsets when it comes to this ideology. One having tunnel vision, being so focused to reach one’s ambitions. The other is being an ambitious wandering soul that eventually get’s back on track after their sojourn from the beaten path.

Every highway has exits leading to other roads. Some decide to drive to their destination directly to their objective. Other’s take detours to explore new roads of their lives.

The road isn’t straight and narrow for me. I am a thrill seeker that loves to explore culture, people, vocations, and philosophies. But, if the undertaking does not excite me then I’ll head onward the road north once more, never looking back.

A lot of us stray from the path that follows. Whereas, straight forward minded people see the end game better than those who are free spirited pirates.

There is no right or wrong of how we take our steps towards our final destination. A great example is athletes who represent people as ones who are focused towards their ending ambition versus artists-entrepreneurs, representing the “roaming Globetrotters” that stray away only to come back again once they find their path towards their final destination.

The world needs both in order to survive.

Either way, it doesn’t matter how we get there because we all eventually will see the light or the darkness at the end of the road because both school’s of thought have different ideas of ambition.

There needs to be a slight touch between the both mindsets because there is an anxiousness of where we want to go and how we will arrive.

 

Under the philosophy of Yin (dark) and Yang (light), there needs to be a dab of both for the two outlooks on the path that follows.

Focused-strait and narrow people need to find the Yang to open their mind’s to other sensations. It is okay to explore the dangers of their fear of dark cheap thrills before seeing the light at the end.

Whereas for drifter’s like myself, we need to find that slight stroke of Yin because we are afraid of the darkness that may lurk at the cusp. This is why we have tendencies to stray away on different exits of the highway to obtain new forms of light because of the fear of darkness. Eventually, one day we will not stray away from the darkness that may lurk at the end.

This is why we must become the hybrid travelers for the path that follows.

After observing people’s motives, I have come to a vast conclusion that a lot of people want “pretty or shiny” at the end of their highway. The “pretty” car or “shiny” television and etc.

 

 

Opulence was created by monarch’s to show status. It’s too bad that for the duration of history, we have tried to emulate terrible rulers and conquerors.

This is not the road for me at all but, if it is for you then take it.

All I want the most is life experiences. This is an addiction, making me yearn for more. This is why I will continue to take those exits and visit situations until I can find my purpose.

Saying, “yes”, to most situations may sound like a risky outlook on life. But, I know it will serve me well.

 

 

If ever I stray too far from the path that follows, please grab my ear and drag me back to the road so I can continue writing for y’all.

Epilogue:

Do not let the anxiousness fear you from the thoroughfare because eventually, we’ll find our true purpose.

Follow the Chinese philosophy because balance is the key.

If you’re all about the destination then don’t take the road. Get a good travel agent and book a flight.

Remember, “The Zos Knows”. 

-David Zosel

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Take a black marker and write these subtle words on your chest, “Get Better.”

As a proud standing-ambassador for idealism, it breaks my heart to see the negativity that people exude upon themselves. Optimism, realism, and pessimism are the three bases of the human mindset.

Many times, people have said that I have this optimistic energy that is welded in of me, mirroring the optimism of a child.

The major thing that strains my soul is how people dwell on past hardships to open up to people at a starting point of a relationship. Continuing under this notion, people make excuses for themselves to prevent them from their goals is just an absolute detriment to humanity.

Instead, we should talk about the future. Rather than hearing about your struggles, let’s hear about what you are most excited about in your life. This is one of my favorite questions to ask people.

Tell me what your ambitions are and how you will achieve them. These are the conversations that we should be having at the dinner table, bars, parks, beaches and etc.

Spread love, joy, positivity, and encouragement to this world. Not self-doubt and the disparaging negativity that we see everywhere.

Even I admit to this blunder, but I make myself just snap out of it immediately because being down and out is a pointless-unproductive use of our time.

People open up to me constantly about how terrible their pasts are, breaking my heart because there is absolutely no point for remorse.

Never forget your past but remember, we should be constantly moving forward, not repentantly reminiscing.

Seriously, there is no time to be depressed in this lifetime.

We only have so little time to live, because the only thing guaranteed in this world is death. So, let’s live.

Your past may have shaped you, but it doesn’t matter where you come from, it only matter’s where you go.

Henceforth, we might as well live it with a full throttling sense of indubitable optimism.

My experience of being a heartbroken soul has taught me to be strong, not wasting my time on things preventing me from being positive.

When you keep moving forward with a positive attitude, your skin becomes thicker, the road rises up to meet you, your engine run’s more smooth and you learn how to take the high road.

Every day is a chance for self-improvement. Even if you have ten minutes to do something every day towards your goal, this precious amount of time will put you closer to your achievement.

My Grandmother stuck a chord with me, referring to someone else in a different context, but here it is:

“So, what. Take ten steps out of the house. Then take ten the next day. Then you will be taking 100 steps a week from now. Soon you’ll be halfway down the street to the convenient store.”

 

Children enter our world with uncanny amounts of enthusiasm. The greatest advantage you can have in life is an optimistically filled positive attitude.

When we enter the early stages of adulthood, we tend to shift away from the “I can do anything attitude”, becoming realists who see things for what they are rather than what they can become, resulting in obtaining a worse attitude about life.

Moreover, when people grow older, we begin to obtain a sense of pessimism, completely losing all sense of hope towards our overall ambition that we had when we were once teenagers.

This is the trending pattern that I see. As for me, I fall victim into the realm of realism. But, I always rejoice because I breathe my wrath of optimism back out in the universe. I just don’t have time to feel sorry for myself.

The greatest disability you can have is a bad attitude.

We can fix any mess during this lifetime. You just need to have that idealistic vision, enabling yourself to see the sun behind the clouds.

Life is too short to just spend it indoors, waiting for the storm to pass. You just need to get out and face the storm; head on.

Never lose that sense of childish buoyancy because we can get better.

I am not trying to change the world so that people think like me. But, we can always get our shit together, one foot before the other every day.

We can get better because we’re not dead yet.

Remember, “The Zos Knows”. 

-David Zosel

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While I was at university, I realized that I was out of place. It is hard for one to be an individual amongst the millennial mindset in such an evolutionary era.

Stumbling home one night alone, I decided to watch the cult classic film, Reservoir Dogs. A bomb went off in my head, becoming dead set on what I wanted to do for the rest of my life: be a filmmaker.

My greatest dream that I ever had stemmed from an inebriated earthquake-explosion. I was a fool.

It was powerful having this interest that no one else had at university. I even went to film school in LA, wrote 10 screenplays and shot a feature film. This made me stand out, feeling on top of the world.

 

 

But in reality, it was a fabrication for a false reality.

I shot my mouth off to everyone in Minneapolis about how I was going to be the greatest filmmaker. Sadly, this is what I enjoyed the most about my so-called passion besides discovering my love of writing.

The process of shooting my first feature film was an important learning curve. I tried to reinvent every inch of the production, creating major shortcuts. If you make shortcuts for your passions, then that is not the dream or passion for you.

Do I call myself a failure? Hell to the no! By experiencing the process and wearing every hat, I learned what I was capable of.

 

 

Two years and one mediocre film later, I realized what I was meant to do and that is to tell people how I feel, inspiring hope with my literature.

There was a huge infatuation that I had with filmmaking, but I didn’t love the process. I loved the idea of what filmmaking could provide for me when I was to strike gold. Going to Hollywood premieres, parties and meeting actors. Just the glitz and glamor.

I’ve always known that I am a process person. But, the film production process isn’t for me.

There is a great analogy about how Cam Newton loves what football provides for him but he doesn’t love the process. Tom Brady loves the process hence, he is a champion. I want to be a champion.

Be a process person.

Being a dreamer isn’t bad, it is good for the soul. But, nobody ever talks about being a realitier. Living life isn’t easy with your eyes closed because you will crash into concrete walls.

Passions are synonymous with dreams. Your passions should be your secondary goals in life while the contemporary goals are your opportunities. Don’t follow a passion, pursue your opportunities.

Play the cards in life that you are dealt with the integrity to win.

If I really wanted to be a filmmaker, then I would be in LA, running amongst the others in the Hollywood rat race. I would have made it happen, but I dreamt too much and it’s nowhere near my realities.

It was a mere dream that I was too scared to wake up from.

No one can live in your dreams but people can live in your reality. By all means, follow your passions if and only if the opportunities present themselves.

When you don’t make or create your opportunities while the fire is hot then your head will be in the clouds forever. You will just be a dreamer and the process will never create you into a realitier.

I just started my quest of being a realitier last October when my best friend died. It saddens me that a death made my eyes open, realizing that life is easier to live without a blinding mask on.

His death provided me the opportunity to realize that finding success requires accomplishing three things:

1. Obtain wealth.
2. Obtain lands.
3. Create armies.

These opportunities to do these three things have presented themselves to me. I am going to take this route of finding a sustainable career. This is the new hand of cards that have been dealt and I must explore this opportunity.

Amongst this three ring ideology; if you get to have a family then you will be the most blessed because this is the ultimate success in life.

Remember success does not mean happiness. Happiness is based on perception. Having a family is my idea of happiness.

My best friend was my Grandfather, and despite being a spitting image of his face and soul; I want to be nothing like him.

I was born to win and there is a thirst for it. Never have I been victorious in anything significant; but that is yet to come. The only way I can do this is to offer the world my truest self and to spread positivity, love, and joy to all.

It is time to stop dreaming. The opportunities are presenting themselves, filmmaking is not an option.

Recently, I sold a television pilot to an agent who is shopping it around. If the opportunity presents itself then I will be able to pursue my passions. As for now, I have other opportunities to create an amazing life for the people I care about.

For now, I am using my opportunities in order to work on my dreams. I discovered if you follow your opportunities, your dreams will come back to you.

The old adage states, “If you love something set it free, and if it loves you, it will come back to you”.

I am working on a dream. It may seem far away, but the following of opportunity will make it my reality one day.

This is why I choose to be a realitier versus a dreamer.

This was the final lesson that my Grandfather taught me and it is quite stoic. This is strange because James Zosel was a hopeless romantic dreamer.

Being a filmmaker will not lead me to uphold my duty. It is not the process that I want to be a part of yet. This does not mean that I will give up on this passion because if I the three ring ideology to victory, then I can definitely produce a film by the time that I leave this earth; hopefully with a large loving family.

Life is about the forgotten dreams from the slumber that you awaken from, then having to deal with getting up and taking on the “reality of the day”. Once you can undergo this notion, the only thing left to do is breathe.

The process of filmmaking taught me that I need to keep writing. Ice Cube wrote himself out of Compton, JD Salinger scratched himself to a coming of age revolution, and Stan Lee assembled his Avengers. So, I better keep a pen in my hand at all times.

I need to write it all.

Remember, “The Zos Knows”. 

-David Zosel

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